What’s better?  To dress how we want because it will make us feel better and perform better? Or is it better to dress for others because it will make them feel more comfortable with us and therefore more amenable to our point of view?
Of course we would all probably say a little of both.  And in most cases we do a little of both on a daily basis. None of us dress like total buffoons but we all assert our individuality more or less.
But what happens when you need to perform, I mean really perform, like on a big stage in front of a lot of people.  In such a case you totally need to be on your A game and whatever you need to do to feel the most confident, you do.  Like wear what makes you feel best or most comfortable.  BUUUUTTT, you also have to appeal to a diverse, bug group of people who don’t know you and are going to get a sense of who you are and what you believe in a short amount of time.
So what do you do?
Well, I face this a lot.
Like so many women, what we wear can be both a source of pleasure and pain.
Our outfits and overall appearance can lift our spirit and give us a boost of confidence.  And they can also be another aspect of ourselves that people can pick apart. (Funny how men don’t seem to get this type of criticism, eh?)
In the end, I choose to dress for me.  Because it’s me — not some sanitized version of me — that I want people to know up on the big (or even small stage).  They may not all like what I wear, and frankly, they may not all like me.  But in the end, I’d rather be interesting than easy.

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