A few weeks back, I wrote a post about a new-found desire for elegance.  I made it a point to look elegant for my son’s bar mitzvah.
Well, the bar mitzvah came and went and the pics are in!  Rather than wait for the final touch ups, I decided to show how I looked (eye wrinkles and all :)).  I didn’t wear the much-sought-out-for pill-box hat for the photos, and you can’t see my classic pointy-toe black pumps, but I think you can still get the picture.
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The one thing I missed was a really tight girdle!  Spanx just doesn’t cut it.
Still, I did feel great.  I looked poised, in control and, well, grown up.
And this quest for elegance, isn’t mine alone.
A soon as I wrote my last post on elegance, a friend read it and reached out to let me know she, too, was on the same journey to elegance.
And this exchange raised a whole host of questions.  When does that itch to feel and look elegant start?  What does it mean to be elegant? Let’s be honest, is it just a way we describe how old people look when they dress up because hot, sexy, stunning, glamorous just seems too “young?”
So I looked up the word “elegant”in the dictionary and here’s what I read:

1. tasteful in dress, style, or design
2. dignified and graceful in appearance, behaviour, etc
3. cleverly simple; ingenious: an elegant solution to a problem.
The first two were the obvious definitions.  But I forgot about the third.  And it got me excited.
The third definition is rarely associated with how people look.  It’s usually used in terms of technology, architecture, craftsmanship, etc.  But we can think of it in terms of beauty too! I think what elegance reflects isn’t just refinement but a sense of cleverness.  Yes, we may appear simple, straightforward and pleasant at first glance, but thanks to our experience and wisdom, our cleverness and ingeniousness is soon revealed.
I’ll embrace looking refined and clever ANY day! (Well, glamorous and hot, now then is pretty good too ;))

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