Why is it that people think they have the right to comment on how much or what others are eating?

What am I talking about?

There’s some unwritten rule out there that if you’re normal weight or thin, people can criticize or question what you eat.

Let me give you an example.  I was in the middle of a conversation this weekend with an acquaintance and knew that I wouldn’t have time to eat lunch later so I excused myself for a sec to grab my energy bar from my purse.  The person I was with said, “You’re eating that?  When you said lunch I thought you meant a real lunch, not a bar.  Is that really enough?”  I felt I had to make some excuse like, well, I ate a huge breakfast.

Now wait a minute.  I don’t comment on my friends’ tastes for calorie rich lunches so why should I get snickers for my low-calorie mini-meal (and btw, I had another a few hours later, as I like to eat often!)

It’s become so common for society to antagonize people watching their weight (ex: this article about a recent pic of Heidi Klum,”Heidi Klum — Curvy Beauty to Scary Skinny!“), that now there’s a phenomenon of people faking their eating habits to show they pig out like the rest of us.  The phenomenon has been aptly entitled “Liar-exics” by Mailonline.  People are eating “normal” or high calorie foods in front of others so as not to appear “hung up on eating.”  Otherwise, they think their friends or the media “shout” at them for overtly eating small, low-calorie portions.  If the reverse were true (i.e., getting snickers for eating junk food), the backlash would be intense.

When the diets are extreme and border on disorders, I see where a quiet discussion among friends could be helpful.  But nasty comments don’t help anyone.

Why can’t we just leave people alone and let them eat what they want, when they want…be it celery sticks or a 20 oz ice cream float?

If I may borrow a line from Dr. King (with a few changes, granted), let’s appreciate our friends for who they are and not for what they do or don’t eat.

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