Weekend Observations: Let's Get a Grip On What's Really Unfair

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Let’s talk about fairness.
I just read a post in the New Yorker (Does Beauty Drive Economic Success?) about a new study that correlates the good looks of newly appointed CEOs to a rise in their companys’ stock prices.  This study follows a long line of studies that show how better looking people enjoy more economic success than less attractive folks.
The post proceeds to add comments by cultural theorists, like Naomi Wolf, condemning the “unfairness” of looks-ism in the workplace.
Now, come on.
Successful business people share a lot of qualities beyond looks that I find unfair too!  I bet you most successful people have a knack for making friends, telling jokes, and speaking in public.  I wish I could have some of these traits.
EVERYONE is going to have a set of gifts that will raise them to great heights.  Is that fair?  Just today, as I was watching my daughter kick ass at fencing, I thought to myself: “Wow, I wish I had her ability to maneuver my body the way she does.”  She was born with a physical intelligence that I will never have.  Is that fair?  Of course!
Being better looking isn’t something we should be judged on exclusively, of course.  But having it be a component of our overall package isn’t shameful.
And if you want to talk about fairness, being 20 lbs overweight or bald does not nearly compare to being raised in an underprivileged household, being born in a poverty-stricken country, or being severely disabled.  Think these folks will have it easy being successful in business?  Now that’s unfair!
Let’s get real here.  If we’re all so worried about not being successful because of how great (or not) we look, then hone another talent or skill.  Nobody gets by via looks alone.  It’s a package.

Weekend Observations: Let’s Get a Grip On What’s Really Unfair

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Let’s talk about fairness.

I just read a post in the New Yorker (Does Beauty Drive Economic Success?) about a new study that correlates the good looks of newly appointed CEOs to a rise in their companys’ stock prices.  This study follows a long line of studies that show how better looking people enjoy more economic success than less attractive folks.

The post proceeds to add comments by cultural theorists, like Naomi Wolf, condemning the “unfairness” of looks-ism in the workplace.

Now, come on.

Successful business people share a lot of qualities beyond looks that I find unfair too!  I bet you most successful people have a knack for making friends, telling jokes, and speaking in public.  I wish I could have some of these traits.

EVERYONE is going to have a set of gifts that will raise them to great heights.  Is that fair?  Just today, as I was watching my daughter kick ass at fencing, I thought to myself: “Wow, I wish I had her ability to maneuver my body the way she does.”  She was born with a physical intelligence that I will never have.  Is that fair?  Of course!

Being better looking isn’t something we should be judged on exclusively, of course.  But having it be a component of our overall package isn’t shameful.

And if you want to talk about fairness, being 20 lbs overweight or bald does not nearly compare to being raised in an underprivileged household, being born in a poverty-stricken country, or being severely disabled.  Think these folks will have it easy being successful in business?  Now that’s unfair!

Let’s get real here.  If we’re all so worried about not being successful because of how great (or not) we look, then hone another talent or skill.  Nobody gets by via looks alone.  It’s a package.

Looks Discrimination is Still Out There, But That Doesn't Mean Attractiveness is Bad

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While it may not be new news, looks discrimination is still plaguing us in the workplace.  And, no surprise, it hurts women more than men.  Naomi Wolf wrote about this recently in her piece:  ‘Beauty Quotient’ still limiting factor for professional women.  And I’m not just talking about women who may appear less than desirable.  I’m  even referring to women who seem “too sexy” for some.
Ugh, I’m so sick of it.
As you all of you know, I’m a big proponent of people – women and men alike — caring for their appearances.  I think they will be physically and emotionally healthier as a result.  And I also recognize that our looks are our part of the package we share with colleagues and customers.  How we appear matters and sends signals.  But it shouldn’t be something that gets in the way of progress, of course.
I’m fortunate enough to work alongside some of the most competent, intelligent people in the world. And they also happen to be quite attractive.  Few may win Miss or Mr. Universe contests, but they all make it a habit of appearing attractive.  To them, it’s a no brainer.  If you’re high achieving in your job, then you’re the same with your body.  And that’s not a bad thing!  They’re probably high achieving when it comes to their weekend activities and hobbies too!  If they think it makes them whole, then so be it.  Does this drive for beauty lead to some deviant behaviors?  Maybe for a few.  But the majority of the people I work with are just happy, hard-working folks who see their bodies as a work of progress and something to be embraced and celebrated.  Net net, looking good makes them feel better about themselves.
I’m not endorsing looks discrimination.  Don’t get me wrong.  But not to recognizing the positive power of attractiveness for one’s own sake and that of others, isn’t the way either.  I truly believe if we all just concentrated on our own physical health and well-being a bit more instead of focusing so much on that of others’, we’d all be that much happier and more accepting of those around us.

Looks Discrimination is Still Out There, But That Doesn’t Mean Attractiveness is Bad

joan_holloway

While it may not be new news, looks discrimination is still plaguing us in the workplace.  And, no surprise, it hurts women more than men.  Naomi Wolf wrote about this recently in her piece:  ‘Beauty Quotient’ still limiting factor for professional women.  And I’m not just talking about women who may appear less than desirable.  I’m  even referring to women who seem “too sexy” for some.

Ugh, I’m so sick of it.

As you all of you know, I’m a big proponent of people – women and men alike — caring for their appearances.  I think they will be physically and emotionally healthier as a result.  And I also recognize that our looks are our part of the package we share with colleagues and customers.  How we appear matters and sends signals.  But it shouldn’t be something that gets in the way of progress, of course.

I’m fortunate enough to work alongside some of the most competent, intelligent people in the world. And they also happen to be quite attractive.  Few may win Miss or Mr. Universe contests, but they all make it a habit of appearing attractive.  To them, it’s a no brainer.  If you’re high achieving in your job, then you’re the same with your body.  And that’s not a bad thing!  They’re probably high achieving when it comes to their weekend activities and hobbies too!  If they think it makes them whole, then so be it.  Does this drive for beauty lead to some deviant behaviors?  Maybe for a few.  But the majority of the people I work with are just happy, hard-working folks who see their bodies as a work of progress and something to be embraced and celebrated.  Net net, looking good makes them feel better about themselves.

I’m not endorsing looks discrimination.  Don’t get me wrong.  But not to recognizing the positive power of attractiveness for one’s own sake and that of others, isn’t the way either.  I truly believe if we all just concentrated on our own physical health and well-being a bit more instead of focusing so much on that of others’, we’d all be that much happier and more accepting of those around us.

Week in Review: 4/14-4/20

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What happened on Beautyskew this week?  Finally, A LOT!
I finally succumbed and hired a personal shopper!  See why and what happened. Weekend Observations: I Did It…I Went Personal!
Lots of coverage on this new Dove campaign.  Check it out and see why. Pic of the Week: Self-Perception Vs. Reality
Affirmative action or new perspectives on beauty?  This story on Miss Israel delves into this very question. It’s Not Politics; It’s Beauty
More juicy beauty-in-culture reading. More to Love: Additions to the Reading List

Spring has Sprung…woo hoo!

 

More to Love: Additions to the Reading List

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What juicy beauty stories caught our attention this week?  Take a look below:

  • Young Indian girls gain financial independence via beauty training

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/kolkata/Tribals-can-start-beauty-business-at-home/articleshow/19570677.cms

  • In a country with over 140 million people, how can there be one Russian look?  Well, according to the haters of of Miss Russia, there must be!

http://www.torontosun.com/2013/04/15/miss-russia-haters-russian-beauty-queen-shocked-by-racist-backlash

  • Inspiring story about a girl born with two major birth defects.

http://www.cnn.com/2013/04/14/health/loker-profile/index.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jennifer-armstrong/revisiting-the-beauty-myth_b_3063414.html

Any more stories to add? Comment or tweet us @Beautyskew

Week in Review: 9/15-9/22


A week full of praying and traveling!
Why is it that some people can totally ruin the experience for others?  Weekend Observations: Is There Such A Thing As Gym Etiquette?
So what’s the deal?  Should we tell our children they’re beautiful even if they’re not? Should We Give Our Children False Hopes?
Add to your list of great beauty-in-culture reading More to Love: Additions to the Reading List
Enjoy the end of summer!

More to Love: Additions to the Reading List


 

  • How the beauty of a college determines application rates

http://amherststudent.amherst.edu/?q=article/2012/09/19/beauty-and-advertising

  • iPhone does it again:  a marriage of beauty & versatility

http://newsok.com/iphone-5-blends-beauty-with-versatility-to-entice-new-buyers/article/3710692?custom_click=pod_headline_national-finance-news

  • What does ugliness really look like?  Ask an ugly person.

http://enidnews.com/opinion/x1059022149/True-beauty-is-in-the-heart-of-the-beholder

  • Naomi Wolf talks vagin and the beauty myth

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/12/naomi-wolf-vagina-beauty-myth_n_1880701.html

Any more good reads?  Comment or tweet us @Beautyskew.com