Weekend Observations: Are Conversations about Beauty Among Friends Just Fun talk or Something Deeper?

Friendship and Beauty

I was in the UK this week for work.  Not only did I meet many amazing colleagues but I also got to spend time with some of my dearest friends who now live there.  Every night I was lucky enough to eat dinner with the same friend.  She is an extremely successful lawyer and a “woman of the world.”  So, of course, we discussed our jobs and all the new things we were learning.  She had just broken up with her boyfriend of four years and so we definitely spent hours lamenting that too.  He could have been the “one” we all thought.
But the conversations were interspersed (and I mean literally interrupting each other) with fun discussions around our shoes, make-up and haircuts.  While those conversations were a bit lighter than the others, they were still important to us and undoubtedly bonded us even more.
Were those beauty conversations just a form of comic relief?  I don’t think so.
You see, we are all so ambitious when it comes to our jobs or with our family lives, that we can feel so future oriented and overwhelmed by our plans.  But discussions about our favorite eyeshadow or the great camel colored boots we found, remind us that we are still physical beings, living in the here and now.
In essence, they ground us.
As it turns out those conversations — the serious “life” ones and the beauty ones – had an impact.  Not only did we catch up on our lives and offered each other good advice, but my friend got an awesome new haircut before our last dinner together.  It definitely refreshed her look, and I think her spirits too.
 

Weekend Observations: What Women Have That Men Don't

If men have sports, we have beauty.  In other words, even if they don’t know one another, men can strike up a conversation around sports and it could last hours.  Whereas women from all walks of life can launch into discussions about beauty and it can keep them chatting for the rest of day.
OK in many ways this is SO cliché.  After all, plenty of men actually ready this blog…a big “thank you” to all of you!  And I’ve written about the growing interest among men in their beauty.
But, let’s face it, there’s still a difference between men and women in the attention they place on and the excitement they have for all things beautiful.
What I didn’t expect, though, is how bonding the topic of beauty is among women.  In fact, when I first launched the blog, I was sensitive that maybe a lot of women would shy away from wanting to discuss it because it could be regarded as old fashioned or superficial.  And, indeed, a few do change the subject when my blog comes up.
But for the majority, the blog and the topic of beauty is an ice breaker.  For example, while I realize the importance of networking, I wouldn’t call myself a “natural networker.”  But I had one of my typical Luxury Marketing Council networking events this weekend, and I had to play the part.  The first hour or so felt stiff, but as soon as I was able to gracefully (or maybe not so gracefully) work my blog into the conversation, the vibe loosened up and a sense of excitement, passion, and authenticity among the different women I met started to materialize.
You could argue we women bond around beauty because society oppresses us all with the expectations on how we should look and smell.  But my take is that beauty binds us because it’s creative, transformative and fun!

Weekend Observations: What Women Have That Men Don’t

If men have sports, we have beauty.  In other words, even if they don’t know one another, men can strike up a conversation around sports and it could last hours.  Whereas women from all walks of life can launch into discussions about beauty and it can keep them chatting for the rest of day.

OK in many ways this is SO cliché.  After all, plenty of men actually ready this blog…a big “thank you” to all of you!  And I’ve written about the growing interest among men in their beauty.

But, let’s face it, there’s still a difference between men and women in the attention they place on and the excitement they have for all things beautiful.

What I didn’t expect, though, is how bonding the topic of beauty is among women.  In fact, when I first launched the blog, I was sensitive that maybe a lot of women would shy away from wanting to discuss it because it could be regarded as old fashioned or superficial.  And, indeed, a few do change the subject when my blog comes up.

But for the majority, the blog and the topic of beauty is an ice breaker.  For example, while I realize the importance of networking, I wouldn’t call myself a “natural networker.”  But I had one of my typical Luxury Marketing Council networking events this weekend, and I had to play the part.  The first hour or so felt stiff, but as soon as I was able to gracefully (or maybe not so gracefully) work my blog into the conversation, the vibe loosened up and a sense of excitement, passion, and authenticity among the different women I met started to materialize.

You could argue we women bond around beauty because society oppresses us all with the expectations on how we should look and smell.  But my take is that beauty binds us because it’s creative, transformative and fun!