93% of women engage in “Fat Talk.”
What is “Fat Talk”? It’s the kind of crap we say to ourselves, about our selves to others, what we hear from others, and what we see on TV/magazines etc., that’s critical of our bodies. And, sadly, I include myself in that group.
There’s some interesting findings about “Fat Talk” in a study published in the Psychology of Women Quarterly.
1. Most people who engage in it aren’t even fat!
2. It’s a form of female bonding.
3. It’s a metaphor for feeling emotionally sucky (I saw a similar connection in research I conducted on weight management which showed that women’s attitudes toward their bodies’ health/fitness was a barometer of how good/successful they were feeling in their lives overall.)
4. Uttering the actual “Fat Talk” ends up making you feel worse.
5. It makes those who are in bad shape and overhear it feel bad about themselves.
Some good news. A few years ago, a study was done asking women to pick favorite characters in Sex in the City after viewing a scene where all but Samantha criticized a part of their bodies. Samantha admitted to loving her body. The subjects found Samantha the LEAST appealing because of her confidence, in this case, with her body. But when another similar study was conducted a few years later in 2009 where different characters engaged in “Fat Talk,” the subjects chose those characters who engaged in the LEAST “Fat Talk” as their favorites. Ah, progress!
Let’s spend the precious minutes we have COMPLIMENTING, not berating, ourselves. If we can’t stomach being nice to ourselves, than for goodness sake at least compliment others!