I just read an impassioned plea by an African woman to end the “beauty-ism” that women face. She believes that women are enslaved by their concern for men’s opinions of their appearances. This concern not only detracts them from other pursuits, but also makes them feel bad about themselves if they don’t “measure up.”
I certainly don’t think we should be valued by our looks alone, and, frankly, I don’t think men ONLY choose us based off of our looks. But, let’s face it: men are wired to be attracted to how we look. So is it truly in our best interest to throw all beauty treatments out the window?
And it’s a 2-way street! Men should meet our expectations of good hygiene, a nice physique and nice clothing. Shouldn’t we all look a bit better?
Our sense of sight is probably the most evolved and sophisticated; and we “read” people, situations and environments via our eyes first. We’re never going to let that go. Of course we don’t want to be slavish to beauty, but it doesn’t make sense to throw away the baby with the bath water. All of our gifts –intelligence, athleticism, kindness …and yes, even beauty, should be cultivated and shared in a balanced and reasonable way.