I have 2 boys and a girl but I often joke that I actually have 3 boys (my daughter, Laila, being a big tomboy).
Case in point.  Laila and I went to Sephora to satisfy my curiosity on new beauty trends.  I asked her if she wanted to try the nail polishes and paint her fingernails with me.  She looked at me like I was a freak, as if saying “why in the world would I want to do that?”
How could I, who loves beauty and fashion, have a girl who wants to sling guns?
But then I hear Walmart and MAC are expanding their “target market” and launching make-up lines for young girls next month, and it doesn’t sit quite right with me.  Do I want my daughter getting involved in something so “grown-up” at such a tender age?  Will it turn her into some promiscuous, appearance-focused pre-teen?  I start conjuring up images of JonBenet Ramsey…yikes!  Maybe I should be tremendously grateful she’s a tomboy after all!
Then again, I loved make-up at a young age.  It was a source of creativity and dream weaving, kinda the way legos are for others.
Why do we worry about our daughters expressing their femininity anyway? Aren’t the days of pushing aside feminine behaviors in favor of more intellectual or physical pursuits (so we can seem like the boys) over?  Certainly all the powerful, amazing women I know don’t eschew their femininity, so why should our kids?  Make-up is no longer an indication of sexual desire but rather a marker of self-expression and even self-respect.  So why shouldn’t the same be true for little girls?
I’m not running off to MAC anytime soon, though.  And if Laila is anything like herself a few years from now, I’ll be the one practicing with “cutesy pink” and “lovely lavender” while she throws a football around.

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