It really pisses me off when the desire to look our best is regarded, at best, as superficial or, at worst, as a sign of lack of self-love.

Oh pleeeeze!

Why do I say this now?

British news site, MailOnline, recently reported that 6 out of 10 women wouldn’t consider going to work without their make-up (“My make-up’s a must!”.)

Makes sense to me.  I certainly put on at least mascara and blush before heading out.

But then the article uses language like: “8 million women don’t feel confident enough in their appearance to venture out barefaced” and quotes a life coach saying, “If the reason for wearing make-up lies in the woman feeling worried that people will judge her for the ways she looks rather than who she is, that’s a problem that needs to be addressed.”

Whoa there.

First of all, wearing make-up for most women is not about being unconfident.  Quite the opposite.  We want to address the world with all of our assets optimized, including our social skills, acumen, and yes, even our appearance!

Second of all, the notion of being judged for what we look like versus what we are doesn’t make perfect sense to me.  In other words, it’s not an “either/or” situation.  What we look like says a lot about who we are.  I’m not saying that our clothes, skin or hair tell the WHOLE story, but we shouldn’t devalue the role our appearance plays either.  How we look can often indicate whether we respect our bodies, what kind of industry we work in, or our sense of creativity.

Enough with putting down women (or men, for that matter) who want to look their best.  Harrumph!

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