What is the difference between being attractive and being beautiful?  Vivian Diller PhD, a frequent blogger on Huffington Post and author of Face It, answers this question.  She explains:

“Beauty is a rigid, static physical image.  Attractiveness is a fluid, variable psychological experience.  One that moves from inside out and back again.  Beauty can be inherited, Photoshopped or surgically attained.  Attractiveness develops, evolves over time and can be ageless.  One can be attractive to others or simply feel that way about oneself.  Beauty leads women toward the pursuit of the physical features associated with the word.  Attractiveness is an attainable goal for those who take care of their bodies, enjoy their lives, maintain sensuality and engage with others.”

I don’t agree with her distinction.  I actually believe a beautiful person is what she describes as an attractive one.  I really like the imagery she offers of someone who is “fluid” and full of “energy.”  But I think the notion of enhancing one’s beauty by surgical or artificial means can actually contribute to people feeling more confident, and, therefore, help them be more “fluid”, “sensual” and “energetic”.  In other words, attractive.

Given her role as a psychologist to women facing their aging beauty, I’m sure Diller is reluctant to advise them against seeking surgical solutions right away. I get it. But if one wants to feel more beautiful with some “help” or through natural means, it doesn’t matter to me.  It’s all about having a positive attitude, a sense of grace, and making the most of what you have.

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