Week 3 of 30lbs in 30 weeks. -2lbs
If you follow Beauty Skew on Twitter or Facebook, you may have noticed a little crowdsourcing project I posted. I asked friends to vote on potential hair cuts for me to get. So, last Saturday, I got a new cut and color. Based on feedback, it is a pretty dramatic change. I have to admit, the compliments feel great and I find I myself wanting to live up to the praise. I am putting a little more effort into my appearance overall. I have been dressing a little better; shunning the converse for some heels, taking the time to accessorize and dutifully applying a bit more make-up.
This relates back to one of my original goals when I started 30in30. Act “as-if”. It can also be stated as “fake it until you make it” or “act the way you want to feel.” Our bodies, our emotions follow where the mind leads. Philosopher and psychologist William James described this phenomenon:
“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.”
Gretchen Rubin made this one of her “Commandments” in her Happiness Project and found lots of evidence to back this theory up.
I have employed this strategy numerous times over the years. When making a career change, if i felt intimidated, I acted confident. When unsure, I acted capable. In social situations and at networking events, I act like an extrovert. A Harvard basketball coach famously employed this technique quite successfully to win the women’s N.C.A.A. tournament.
People have started treating me differently and it seems unlikely that it is only because of a new haircut. I believe people perceive a change in me that is more than physical. And yes, I do feel a bit sexier, a bit more confident and more me. Now, if only I could learn to act “as-if” I love going to the gym!
Do you act “as-if”? Have you noticed a change in your life led by a change in attitude?
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Karen Propp is an artsy-fartsy digital geek who sees beauty in a different way. She chronicles the pursuit of happiness and her weight loss project, 30lbs in 30 weeks, in a weekly feature. You can read the introduction here and follow her journey here. You can also follow Karen on twitter @karen_propp.